The Self-Reformers

  10 KEYS TO STOP BEING SELFISH Table of Contents are you selfish? 10 keys to stop being selfish conclusion ARE YOU SELFISH? If you've ever been accused of being selfish, don't spit in the air and threaten to pull the roof down. That resolves nothing. Just check if it's true or not. And if it is, then by all means do something about it. Like they say, just take a chilled pill. Man, at his most basic natural level, is a selfish animal always concerned about his/her own welfare, wants, needs, fears, security, and everything else which advances individual or personal welfare and wellbeing. Seeking to promote your own interest or wanting the best deals for yourself is hardly a crime, is it? Can it be wrong to seek to breathe in clean and quality air for a better life and qualitative health? Can it be improper to focus your mind on pursuing your goals to the best of your ability and with all you've got? Of course it's not. These are man's natural and

  HOW TO BREAK OUT OF YOUR SHELL AND BECOME A BETTER VERSION OF YOURSELF Topics: The wallflower 7 escape routes from your shell Conclusion THE WALLFLOWER A wallflower is a guy who habitually demonstrates undisguised awkwardness at social gatherings and occasions. Amongst his weaknesses he can't dance not because he doesn't know how to but because he's too shy to do so. Like every inmate of mentally-induced shells, he feels nervous, beliefs he's in the wrong place and doesn't belong or fit in. He's in a mental prison that won't allow him to express his freedom of association, talents, and ideas. Are you comparable to a wallflower at social events, even the insignificant few you manage to attend? Are you physical free but mentally and socially isolated and in a shell ? Are you groaning and hiding in a shell due to unkind treatment and harsh judgement or treatment? Do you want to break out of your shell and become more sociable and a better version o

 9 REASONS TO REJECT ENVY  Outline A condition called envy The character of envy 8 reasons to reject envy Conclusion A CONDITION CALLED ENVY You know, change as always is the only constant commodity in life. You might not be able to touch it, but it comes all the same. It comes gradually sometimes and you can see the change shaping up. As in a bad guy gradually reforming and becoming good. Most times though, you rarely see it coming. It just seems to happen, and the  processes leading to it are hidden from you.  Check this out. You went to bed last night and when you rose today boom! Change is here. Things are no longer the way they were yesterday. That's what I saw when I met an old dear friend again, after many years of separation. He used to be a very sweet, loving and caring fellow. Everybody's type of guy, you know.  Back then as a colleague in college, he was popular for his supportive and motivational disposition. He was so cheerful. Your joy was his joy. Your achievemen

   ARE YOU OBSESSIVELY FIXATED ON AN INHERITANCE? Outline: Inheritance Obsession Syndrome Your Financial Security Is On Hold 11 Tactics To Grow And Maximize Your Inheritance INHERITANCE OBSESSION SYNDROME Don't sweat it, I am not a psychologist, but that's the name I gave it.  It sure sounds like some kind of jingo, doesn't it? But it isn't.  It's talking about a syndrome present in every culture and traditions all over the world. It describes a special breed who are negatively fixated on other people's sweat and what they stand to gain through it rather than through their own efforts. There is always one universal proverb or another which describes such people.  Every language and tongue has an imaginative way of coining it. I don't know about yours but obviously I surely know mine. In Yoruba: Agbojulogun firaefosipa  . Translated:  When you depend only on what you will inherit or has already inherited without striving to grow or maximize it, you are no dou

Have you ever lived with a reckless spender, or had one as a partner?  Was it a dad, mum, husband, wife, siblings,, children you know? It could even be me or you. Reckless spender! To be reckless is to be heedless.  To be heedless is to be inattentive, careless, exhibiting obvious traits of self-indiscipline. A reckless guy is like a drunkard. He just couldn't care less whether the roof  falls or not. He spends and spends, gyrating in the intoxicating frenzy of the dance, not minding to check if anything remains in the purse. Reckless spending! It is so easy to spend money, to throw a party every friday and drink the town dry, but it is hard to grow wealth. It is a tiny fire in the pocket of one's  garment: you barely notice it is there, but the more carelessly you spend the bigger the fire expands, until the safe is empty and you are consumed by  bankruptcy. A CALL TO ACTION To avoid this, then a stich in time should be applied to save nine. Refusing to take decisive measures

  CONTROL YOUR TONGUE   HIGHLIGHTS WHEN IN NEED WHAT'S WRONG? MANY FACES FEATURES 12 REMEDIES     WHEN YOU ARE IN NEED  OF A REMEDY TO SAVE YOUR IMAGE What would you call something you couldn't stop doing? You don't like doing it, yet you find yourself always indulging in it? Did I hear you call it an 'obsession'? No, that's pathological. Habit ? Yes, without a doubt. But it's got to be more specific than that.  A weakness?  Well, isn't that what all habits are - weaknesses? After all, a man or woman is addictively enslaved to his or her own habits and it requires herculean efforts and practice to break free of them So, it's a weakness alright, but of what type is it? What specific label would you give to it - when you can't control your tongue? When you are what my elder sister nicknames "radio without battery"? When you chatter needlessly and pointlessly? When you can be likened to an unofficial source of unsavoury, unwanted and offen

  "Carelessness does more harm than a want of knowledge" Benjamin Franklin   " Things fall apart and happen out of stupidity and carelessness." John Sandford TOPICS INDEX AS CARELESS AS A CHILD AT PLAY AS CARELESS AS THE WIND... INGREDIENTS OF A CARELESS HABIT 15 ANTIDOTES TO CARELESS HABITS Home-made drawing by Matthew Adeyanju for mitade1 (madeyanju2@gmail.com) AS CARELESS AS A CHILD AT PLAY This is how an intelligent friend once painted the picture of a careless fellow. A driver was embarking on a very very long journey. He did not bother to carry out all the  needful steps preparatory to long journeys.  So he neglected to ensure that he had the following: a full tank of fuel, spare tires, healthy engine, up-to-date driver's license, a reliable working map to guide him, he also failed to have a good night's sleep or rest because he partied late into the night prior to the day of the journey. And when he eventually started out on the journey, he was not on